No need to rush into high school relationships

Relationships. Once a person has entered high school it seems to be one of the top things people talk about. Most people feel it’s a necessity to have, when in reality it’s not.

There is more to high school than making sure to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. There is so much to experience in high school with or without a partner.

There is no need to rush into a high school relationship, just let it happen on its own. If you happen to find yourself in one then good, if not then remember that it is completely okay to be single.

You don’t need a significant other to make you feel good about yourself. Self love is one of the most important things out there. Once you learn to love yourself you can then go on to love others.

I’m not saying that I am against high school relationships. All I am saying is try not to devote your whole high school experience to finding “the perfect one”.

There is a whole life ahead of us and studies from an article on Huffington Post called  “Are High School Relationships Worth It?” posted on Jan. 29, 2013 show that “The majority of the time, high school relationships do not last, as only 2 percent of new marriages in North America are compromised of ‘high school sweethearts.’”

There is no need to try and find the “perfect partner” in high school, because there are slim chances that you will.

This isn’t to be pessimistic about relationships; there is nothing wrong with being in one. But, if you are not in one then remember that it’s OKAY.

While having someone to walk you to class, hold hands with, and go on dates with seems great, there are also negatives to a high school relationship.

The “Are High School Relationships Worth It?” also states “Falling in love and having that not reciprocated could stunt a young man or woman for the rest of their lives, disrupting their abilities to trust or feel that way towards anyone in the future.”

“Someone who goes through an especially harsh breakup in high school is undoubtedly more prone to being emotionally damaged by it than an older individual, because high school students are still maturing” states the article.

Most high school students don’t know what “love” truly is and they use that term so loosely. Therefore while one person may truly mean it when they say “I love you” the other may not.

Being in a relationship is not a game, or having someone to show off as a trophy. It’s truly caring for your partner and wanting to better yourself and them at the same time together. Being able to go through struggles together and not give up on the first argument, it’s that and so much more.

If you find yourself being upset about being in high school and being single, remember that there is no need to rush. Life is full of surprises and some surprises are just worth waiting for.